Monday, March 17
Moving
So I need to vent my feelings and this is as good a place as any. My wonderful sister in law Sarah lives in a place where people come in and out. A lot. She has talked to me on several occasions about how sad it is when her close friends move and she has to go out and make new ones. I always felt bad for her and was sympathetic, but until the last 6 months I wasn't really empathetic. But now, as 4 of my favorite ward friends have moved in the last 5 months I can totally understand how she felt and it is not fun!!! I feel kind of hypocritical in being mad at my friends for moving, as we almost bought a house out of our ward boundaries, but now that I'm here I want everyone I love to stay here too. The hardest part of having close friends move is that you loose that level of comfort that allows you to call them at a minutes notice for a favor, to hang out, or just to chat. You lose the people who know about the happenings in your day to day adventures and have started learning the history of your life. You lose the people who you serve with and see at church and plan parties with and visit during the week. And you lose their kids who are friends with your kids and people you love to watch grow up. All in all you lose great friends and are sad about it. So that is that. I am going to allow myself a week of mourning to miss my good friends but still be grateful for the ones I have left.
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I was just thinking yesterday: I hope Jordan comes to visit soon so she and Kristine and I can go to lunch. Please?
Who else has moved? Ashlee? Kaylene?
I know how you feel. Many of my good friends have moved from the neighborhood and it is sad. Yes, we still get to see them and some of them aren't far away, but I miss the close association. It's great to make new friends, but the old friends take a part of you with them when they go. You do "invest" a lot in friends and it's easy to see why you have to many!
Yes, I would love to get together with Emily and you to have lunch. How fun! End of April sound good? :)
Jord, I totally feel your pain! It is so not fun! It is so lonely to lose the people that were part of your day-to-day life and that you have that level of friendship with. I feel for you. The good news is they probably have blogs you can still feel part of their lives with, or you can harass them until they start them like I've done to my poor friends ;) And new people will likely move in, or you'll get to know others better and may end up liking them more than you thought you would. And only a week of mourning? I'm impressed. I still mourn the loss of some of my friends! I'm here if you want to complain about it sister! :)
Lunch sounds great Emily and Kristine!!! I can't wait. I'll be up April 25 through May 6 so let me know which day is good for both of you. Yes, Ashlee and Kaylene moved and another friend Stacey is moving at the end of the month too.
Interesting observation, Jord, on the moving about and away of friends. People do invest quite a bit in friends, and it is tough when they move away. Thank goodness for the church which lets us make new friends quite easily and which gives us a place to congregate with them and continue our association with them.
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I hate when people move. First it makes me sad, then it makes me really mad. Sorry for your losses.....maybe you should just move here?!
Claire- We will always keep your hometown as a moving option and maybe even adopt it as a homeland of our own. (But if not maybe you could move here???)
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