Filling out paperwork at the dentist this week they asked for our names, address, phone number, and insurance information.
They also asked for our occupations.
For J that was easy. Attorney.
For me it was not so much. I am a mother. Is that considered an occupation? Or do I need a more formal title?
A housewife.
A chauffeur.
A homemaker.
A cook.
A stay at home mother.
A maid.
A family finance manager.
A laundress.
How do you handle this situation?
Sunday, January 24
Thursday, January 14
Acceptance
Q: Which is harder: the transition from 1 to 2 children or the transition from 2-3 children?
A: Depends on you.
For me, at this point in time, the transition from 1 to 2 was more difficult than it has been from 2-3.
Why?
I've come up with the following:
With 1 I was still able to have free (ALONE) time at for at least 2 hours a day.
With 2 alone time during the day is impossible.
With 1 I was able to engage in more community/civic events, attend meetings/luncheons during the day, take lessons after J was back from work, etc.
After 2 I am lucky to make it to daytime bookclub once a month.
With 1 I had free time.
After 2 what time I carve out for myself during the day is at the expense of someone else.
With 1 multiple errands on one trip out were a cinch.
After 2 errands are carefully organized to no more than 2 places in a row.
With 1 husband and I had all night to hang out.
After 2 someone is always on call.
With 1 housework, laundry, meals, and ironing were easily carried out on a schedule each week.
After 2 we are lucky to eat out of a clean bowl in the morning.
With 1 I was in charge of providing all entertainment.
After 2 the kids have each other for play and fun.
With 1 I thought I was in charge.
After 2 I know who the real boss(es) are.
So after I experienced the above reality checks after having my 2nd, the 3rd doesn't seem to change much. I am already used to taking care of two little people full time, so what is one more? I am already used to more laundry, more spills, more crying, and more creativity from two kids, so what is one more? I am already used to limited expectations about what I can accomplish in a day, about what activities I can be engaged in, and about what time I can spend alone with my husband, so what is one more?
At the end of the day I realize I am now a real mom, and that taking care of my home and family is a legitimate full time job.
And I wouldn't rather be doing anything else.
A: Depends on you.
For me, at this point in time, the transition from 1 to 2 was more difficult than it has been from 2-3.
Why?
I've come up with the following:
With 1 I was still able to have free (ALONE) time at for at least 2 hours a day.
With 2 alone time during the day is impossible.
With 1 I was able to engage in more community/civic events, attend meetings/luncheons during the day, take lessons after J was back from work, etc.
After 2 I am lucky to make it to daytime bookclub once a month.
With 1 I had free time.
After 2 what time I carve out for myself during the day is at the expense of someone else.
With 1 multiple errands on one trip out were a cinch.
After 2 errands are carefully organized to no more than 2 places in a row.
With 1 husband and I had all night to hang out.
After 2 someone is always on call.
With 1 housework, laundry, meals, and ironing were easily carried out on a schedule each week.
After 2 we are lucky to eat out of a clean bowl in the morning.
With 1 I was in charge of providing all entertainment.
After 2 the kids have each other for play and fun.
With 1 I thought I was in charge.
After 2 I know who the real boss(es) are.
So after I experienced the above reality checks after having my 2nd, the 3rd doesn't seem to change much. I am already used to taking care of two little people full time, so what is one more? I am already used to more laundry, more spills, more crying, and more creativity from two kids, so what is one more? I am already used to limited expectations about what I can accomplish in a day, about what activities I can be engaged in, and about what time I can spend alone with my husband, so what is one more?
At the end of the day I realize I am now a real mom, and that taking care of my home and family is a legitimate full time job.
And I wouldn't rather be doing anything else.
Monday, January 4
Sunbeam
Three years in Primary were all worth it to see my own little sunbeam, on a small seat in the front row, singing her heart out to "I am a Child of God." It absolutely melted my heart.
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